How did we get here?

A bit of a time line I suppose.

January, 2007 – We officially became a couple after months of drunken flirting and stolen kisses.

January, 2008 – In typical lesbian fashion we were living together within a year. With a cat.

May, 2010 – We went touring through Europe together. From the lochs of Scotland to the Eiffel Tower and everything in between.

This was taken in Monaco

July, 2011 – First visited Queenstown, NZ. We both fell in love with this place and knew we would be back again in no time.


August, 2011 – Yoshi, a chocolate labrador puppy comes to live with us.

May, 2012 – A tiny little golden retriever joins our family. We name her Luna.

Luna & Yoshi

August, 2012 – After hiding the ring for months, I finally proposed to Candice and we became engaged.

March, 2013 – We bought a 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom house, with a huge yard for our dogs. Our own home!

May, 2013 – We celebrated our engagement with a picnic at New Farm Park.

August, 2013 – With a small group of family and friends we flew over to Queenstown, NZ so we could legally get married. Same sex marriage had only been legal in New Zealand for less than a week by this point so it was all very rushed and stressful getting the marriage licence in order. But we did and it was magical!

September, 2013 – We had our first fertility appointment with QFG and begin IUI attempts.

January, 2014 – We began IVF and had the first embryo transfer on the 31st.

February, 2014 – Positive pregnancy test , yay!

That brings us to today. Of course a lot has happened between the gaps in that timeline but I would be here all day. It’s been a pretty amazing 7 years and it’s only getting better and better.

Early next week is the 5 month mark in the pregnancy. Seriously, it’s been 5 MONTHS already?! Starting our family was something we had spoken about at length over the years. For some reason or another we could never figure out when that right time was. Have we travelled enough? Are we in a good position financially? Will we miss all the drunken late nights out? Have we had enough time to just be us as a couple? There is never a right time to take leave from your career, give up your freedom, face your fears of something completely brand new, alter the life you know with your partner, and most importantly, have an actual tiny human depend on you for life. There is no magical right time when all of those things align. Candice and I love each other a lot. In fact there is so much love that we even have spare reserves of it. We’re keeping it nice and safe for when our little someone joins us this October.

I’m so excited about the future, I get quite overwhelmed sometimes. It’s all moving so fast yet slow at the same time. Four months to go, yew!!

Well I’ve quite enjoyed that trip down memory lane but if you’ll excuse me, my wife just got home from work and I’d rather look at her than this computer screen. ;-P

The latest news

Hint – there isn’t much.

Last week Candice and I had our Morphology scan. I was looking forward to this ultrasound because it’s the last one that would confirm that we had a healthy growing baby. We had already been given the all clear in the 12 week scan for any chromosomal abnormalities and now we were just wanting to know that the baby is developing normally.

I had taken the whole day as annual leave and Candice took half a day so we were both pretty irritated when the sonographer accused us of booking our appointment too early. For starters it wasn’t us who decided on the appointment date. When I called Queensland Diagnostic Imaging they asked for my due date and then gave me the appointment time when I would be between the 18-20 week mark. Anyway, long story short is that the sonographer was a bit of a jerk about it and was trying to tell me that I was only 17 weeks and 5 days so I shouldn’t have booked it so early. The reality of it though is that I was actually just over the 18 week mark. He was so pushy and spoke to us as if we were stupid. I think it annoyed me so much because I know exactly how many weeks I am down to the exact day, pretty much down to the hour. That’s the benefit of IVF I suppose, really takes the guess work out of it. He said we would need to come back in a week so we left and made an appointment for the 4th of June; two weeks after the failed scan. We also requested the scan to be with the same female sonographer we had at the 12 week scan. She was much more pleasant than the guy we had last week. He was the first male we have had to deal with during this whole baby making process and he absolutely ruined that experience. I don’t think he was especially homophobic, more of a condescending asshole. Though I did notice that unlike the 12 week sonographer, he didn’t seem to be showing Candice the sort of respect a partner would and should be getting. Needless to say we weren’t able to get that extra reassurance that everything is going well.

It also means that for now the gender remains a mystery.

In other news, I’m pretty certain that I’ve started feeling the baby kick. It’s more of a tapping sensation really. I first noticed it last week but since then it has been getting more frequent and I love it! Hopefully they get stronger over the next few weeks so Candice can feel them too.

I finally caved and bought some maternity clothes for work. All my tops are getting a bit tight and uncomfortable and I’m wearing my skirts up so high above my bump it’s getting ridiculous. I busted a button off my lab coat the other day so I’m thinking I may need to get a bigger one of those too.

We bought a glider chair for the nursery and we both think it is the best thing ever. Some friends of ours bought one with their first baby and said it was one of the best investments they made. Even though their daughter is now a toddler they still use it heaps for comfy storybook reading before nap/bedtime.

That’s all that has really happened lately. We are still slowly filling the nursery with all the things we have been told we will need and also some useless things that we just think are adorable. As first time parents, we are allowed to do that!

Ikea haul

Today Candice and I decided we would both call in sick and sleep in. Mid week breaks from work are my favourite! I had been wanting to visit Ikea for a while now so once we were up that’s where we headed off to. We were in the market for baby things – toys, lighting, artwork, anything cute. 
There are quite a few items we will go back for but here are a few things we purchased today.

This plush is part of the Torva series and is based on a characterfilled veggie patch. It’s designed to get kids curious about heathy food and where it comes from. I love this guy.

Also from the same veggie patch series. These plush toys are about 50cm in height and were $15 each.

Candice and I are both big fans of wooden toys so these stacking rings were a must. Bright, colourful and were only $10. Bargain.

We are going to need a lamp for the nursery and after a quick look decided on this one. This doesn’t come assembled… and it wasn’t easy to put together but we love it. It was $30.

We bought three of these shelves. Technically they are picture shelves but we plan to attach them to the wall and use them to display children’s books.

Like this ^^ Each shelf cost $8.

Lastly, this print. We wanted to steer away from the typical nursery artwork. It’s not that we have anything against pastel butterflies or teddybears, it’s just that it’s really not our style. We prefer quirky, unconventional stuff. I know some people would hate this but I seriously really, really love it. The print cost $8 and the frame which is super lightweight (soon to be painted white) was $7.

Our total baby gear spending today was $109. We are pretty happy with all our choices and I can’t wait until we can put the whole nursery together.

Well, I’m off to shovel a block of swedish chocolate into my mouth now. Yum!!

Pregnant dreams… or shall I say nightmares.

Lately I’ve been having dreams where I am a useless excuse for a mother.

Dreams where I’m feeding our newborn baby carrot sticks.
Ones where I realise the baby has been wearing the same dirty nappy for days.
In sleep land I leave our baby on the edge of tall benches.
Good lord, I drop the baby all the time.

What does all this mean?! Am I subconsciously worried that I may turn out to be awful at this parenting gig? When I’m awake I’ve never entertained these thoughts. I’m actually quite confident that Candice and I will do alright. I know there will be lots to learn in the beginning but I really believe our instincts will guide us through most of it.

So what is with all these stupid dreams? Maybe it’s just a pregnancy thing. Has anyone else had these type of dreams?

Candice has been having baby dreams too, though not like mine. All of her dreams involve baby poo. Changing nappy after nappy. Shit everywhere. Green poo on her fingers. Crap all over the bed sheets.  I haven’t had the heart to break the news to her yet that these dreams probably won’t be far from our reality. She doesn’t have the strongest stomach but is determined to make nappy changing duties 50/50 so it will be interesting to see how that unfolds. It will also be hilarious.

I’m 4 months pregnant now… time still feels like it is going slow to me. I borrowed a heartbeat doppler from my sister and now whenever I have those thoughts of doom I can check and listen to that super fast heartbeat coming from my belly. It’s awesome.

Tomorrow is Friday, hope you all have a great weekend planned!