Letter to a boy

Dear Oscar,

Don’t be mad but things are about to change around here. For almost 11 months now, you have been my sole focus. Day in, day out, I’ve made sure that I’ve been right there within arms reach. Well, I’m sorry buddy but our days alone together are about to come to an end. In 5 days I’ll be going back to work, full-time.

Please understand that leaving you with someone else won’t be easy for me. The very first day will be the hardest. It will mean 10 whole hours apart which, if I think about it too long, makes my stomach ache. I have never been away from you for that long before. I’ve barely been away from you at all and in the handful of times that I have, we have left you in the hands of one of your grandparents that adore you. Ugh, and now I have to do this. Leave you in the care of strangers.

Your Mum and I decided early on that we wanted to make this transition as easy as possible on you. So for the last week I have been taking you on daily visits to the childcare centre. The first few days were just so that you could have a play and become familiar with the surroundings. On the first day I placed you down amongst some toys and sat nearby, watching. Gradually I moved further away, until I was on the other side of the room from you and you barely noticed. You have been so comfortable and independent in this new environment, that I am feeling genuine shock that you aren’t clinging to me the moment I try to leave your eyesight. Shock, but also pride. As your parents, we want nothing more than for you to be happy, confident and independent as you grow up. I have to say, kiddo, you’re off to an outstanding start.

Yesterday was the first time I left you alone in the centre and it was for a whole 30 minutes. It was basically just a trial to see how you handled it when I wasn’t around. I sat in a café less than 10 meters away and sipped nervously, wondering how you were going. When the half hour was up, I walked back in to find you happily playing alongside another little boy. When you saw me, your face immediately lit up. You did that funny gallop-like crawl that you do when you get really excited. The kind you do when your Mum gets down on the ground and says ‘I’m gonnnnnna get youuuu!” before chasing after you. It was so cute, your head was bobbing all over the place and you had a massive goofy grin. I knelt down and you climbed onto my lap, rubbed your face all over me and clung on tight to my shirt. I swear my chest felt like it was about to burst. You are such a sweet kid.

Today I left you alone in the centre for 1 hour and once again, you did amazing. I returned to find that you’ve been a happy chap and this time you didn’t even notice me when I walked back in the room. After about 3 minutes, you finally saw me sitting next to you and I received the same gorgeous greeting that I did the day before. The only difference was that you didn’t linger on my lap for as long. After five minutes, you crawled down and took off across the room to play some more.

I feel really lucky that I’m able to ease you into this new phase. I truly think you are going to learn so much and develop so many new skills. As much as I’m going to miss you on our first day apart and most likely cry my face off, I know that you are going to be okay. In fact, my sweet boy, I know you’ll be just fine.

Love, Mummy.


Playing with all the new toys you have access to!


After moving away from where I was sitting, you crawled into this little area where all the music instruments were and played all alone for almost 10 minutes with your back to me. So independent!


5 thoughts on “Letter to a boy

  1. What a very beautiful centre!!! It has taken me a bit since the kids started in their daycares but they have so much fun during the day (despite how hard drop-offs can be and how desperate pick-ups feel). Sending you lots of love and positive thoughts that this transition is okay on YOU. He will be fine but it aches as a mom!

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    • That’s for the words of encouragement! I’ve visited so many daycares over the last few months, including the one my niece and nephew go to. It’s was so reassuring to see how happy they were to be there. I know that Oscar will get used to the routine and will eventually love it. I hope your two have adjusted easily to the daycare they are at now!


  2. Easing him in was the best thing you could do not only for him, but for YOU! He will love being there. Evelyn fussed and cried more her second week than the first. I guess she started to realize this was a permanent change, and she was protesting it. But after 3 weeks, she was good as gold and loved it and her teachers so much. I know O will, too!


  3. Aww that’s a lovely child care center. It looks very appealing to the eye. I hear the first few weeks are the most difficult to transition. I think he’ll do just fine. I think you’ll need more to adjust than him. It’s a great social outlet for children.


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