Lately I’ve been thinking about our next baby. Which is crazy. We don’t have plans to grow our family for a couple more years so it really shouldn’t be thinking about it at all. Have I forgotten how hard it is in the beginning?
Oscar is racing toward toddlerhood so quickly we can barely keep up. A few weeks ago, he had his last swimming lesson in the ‘Baby 1’ class before moving up to the Baby 2 group. He had missed the week before when all the other babies in his class had moved up to the next age group. This meant that he had to have his last lesson with all the new babies, ranging in age from 4 -6 months. He looked GIANT next to them. His legs were long, his hands were huge and his splashes were strong. It was a bizarre moment to see him as a sort of non baby and a little boy instead.
I love this age so much. My stress levels about everything Oscar related has decreased ten fold. During his first year, for the most part, I was constantly on the Baby Centre app/website to read every post. I listened out for passing advice and info on all forms of social media. Teething advice, food advice, breastfeeding advice, sleep advice. I would stay up late, googling rashes and abnormal types of baby poo so that I knew what to look out for. I was so worried a lot about things that I had no control over. Those first few months of his life, I found about 4 grey hairs. Seriously.
Slowly, I learnt to go with the flow. Advice can be great but I know now from experience, that what works for Oscar may not work for someone else. All the info I was reading only made me feel more confused and disheartened. I still ask for advice from time to time but I tend to take it all with a grain of salt because it’s so true that no 2 babies are the same. I’m hoping to take this knowledge with me when we do decide to have our next baby. You know, to prevent a few more of those grey hairs from appearing.
I guess the new baby thoughts are just happening because Oscar is so much easier these days. Although he still doesn’t sleep very well, he is happy to play independently and is getting pretty good at feeding himself. I suppose that makes me feel that we could totally handle having another baby right now. But for the record, we totally couldn’t. We need to sleep, big time. Before re entering the world of midnight feedings and newborn nappy changes, I want to leave time for Candice and I to reconnect as people, not just as parents. We both love Oscar so much that it’s easy to let the subject of him overtake the majority of our conversations these days. We just need a little time before bringing home another baby to date the shit out of each other. We totally deserve it.
At this point we are thinking that in 2 years, we’ll try for a little brother or sister for Oscar. I’ll still turn to mush when I pass a newborn in the street or see a size 0000 singlet but I also know that the wait will be worth it.